Although I am a sporadic visitor to Twitter, I sometimes am quite simply puzzled by some of the tweets which appear on my Twitter Timeline. Especially from girls who live-tweet during their journeys on public transport about the harassment they face daily. And by harassment I mean, inappropriate touching. Yes, let’s not be squeamish about it and talk diplomatically. So many of these girls tweet about being touched down their back, up their front and today, unbelievably, one girl was tweeting about being pawed on her shoulder. Shoulder, if you didn’t get it the first time. I am way beyond puzzled by what the guy was thinking of when he did the shoulder touching act. Does he get off on shoulders? Seriously? I think he was either brain damaged or totally creepy. Yuck. And I really sympathize with girls who have to use public transport and undergo so many assaults and pinching and gropings on a daily basis which is like being punished again and again for no fault of their own. Any girl who values her dignity nowadays avoids public transport like the plague and buys a two wheeler as the first sign of her freedom. But it’s the ones who cannot afford to do so- for various reasons- who suffer these indignities on a daily basis and dread those up and down journeys. Money does have its privileges doesn’t it?
Anyway, the point of this post is I want someone to explain to me why this happens? Is it because these guys come from lower economic class perhaps? The ones who don’t talk to a woman till they actually marry one? Don’t they know that it absolutely impossible to compare this forcible invasion of a woman’s body to the exquisite pleasure of doing something when a woman actually wants you to? Or is that concept of a “No IS A No” beyond them? Is it the current cinema culture? When sexual harassment of the heroine, is passed off as the only respected way of courtship? Even upto getting her drunk and then magnanimously not having sex with her in her comatose state?. As if that happens in real life, where every other guy has in his back pocket a couple of Diazepam tablets (date rape pills?) handy to drop into the drinks of girls who leave their glasses unattended for a couple of seconds. Come to think of it, in our popular films, they don’t show how normal people, for instance people who study in coed institutions behave comfortably with women, they show only the craving for female attention, sex starved lustful males as the ideal, macho “MAN” who every girl secretly admires in her heart.
So I really would like everyone to pass on this public service message to all the guys of your acquaintance- it sucks dudes, to touch a woman against her will. Take it from me; you are better off waiting till you get some girl who wants you to. It really is worth it. So please, please, hands off others bodies. How would you like to be groped and pinched at all your tender spots? And to take advantage of someone’s helplessness just because they have no other option but to continue to be at your mercy? That is really, really rotten guys. Please change. Keep your hands to yourselves.